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End
Relationship Problem
Relationship problem is caused by the incorrect body posture and the incorrect face expression. So Focus - the 'end relationship problem' program - comprises the correction of both; that, in turn, opens the third eye chakra and the crown chakra. Here are some things to keep in mind when you're feeling stressed by (or even overwhelmed by) a relationship problem: People are in relationships with one another for all kinds of reasons. These include default (your family members, classmates); necessity (your professor or roommate); personal choice (friends, significant others); or happenstance (the loud guy in the seat adjacent yours in the stadium). While most times it's our closest relationships that cause us the most stress, even the most casual relationships with others can affect the way we feel about a situation, or ourselves. Additionally, learning to sustain healthy relationships and choosing to end (or not enter) unhealthy ones, are skills that can take a lifetime of practice. There are two sides in every relationship. This means that, by default, each relationship has an inherent power dynamic and an opportunity for multiple perspectives. Relationship problems often arise when power dynamics are unbalanced or when people view the same situation very differently. When things are going poorly, remember: the other person has his or her own story about what is happening, and that story makes sense to him or her too. Resolving a relationship problem frequently requires each person coming to understand the other's perspective and, whenever possible, doing what it takes to bring the relationship back into a respectful balance. It can be difficult to address a relationship problem, especially if there are inherently biased power dynamics at play (e.g., you feel slighted by one of your professors), but this does not mean that you are powerless in the situation. No one relationship can give you everything that you need. Likewise, you cannot be the sole support for someone else. Each person is complex and therefore, it takes some careful balance to manage multiple relationships in a healthy manner. Get clear about what you believe the problem to be. Think about it. Write about it. Talk about it with the person with whom you're having trouble OR with a friend who will keep your confidence. Sometimes we're not sure why we're upset, but we know something's wrong. Work with that instinct until you know what the issue is. Does it feel like a familiar situation to one you've had in the past? If so, what does that tell you? "I statements" are one key to successful communication. Don't blame the other person. Help him or her to understand what you feel and what you would like to have happen. This doesn't guarantee that he or she will understand, or that you'll get what you want; however, the other person will be much more likely to hear you if you speak respectfully, and from your own truth. Unstated expectations can be problematic. People in relationship (friends, lovers, roommates) often have different ideas about what the nature of the relationship is, or different expectations about what it takes to keep it healthy. For instance, you may have your own ideas about how much time together (or shared space) is desirable; who else (if anyone) is part of that relationship, or what the "red alerts" are when things are going wrong. But do you know what your (friend, lover, roommate) believes? If not, find out. If people have different expectations about what the relationship means or requires, then jealousy or frustration can result. Hard as it might be at times, it's important to talk it out. If you feel strongly about something, draw a boundary. (e.g. "Mom, I will call you once a week, but not every day.") It's usually better to know where the differences (of opinion or in need) are than to operate on false assumptions. In my weekend training session to end relationship problem, I just correct your body posture and face expression; and the relationship problem starts vanishing in the thin air! You discover the real physical nature of your body that makes you instantly feel like interacting deeply as a result of undergoing the 'end relationship problem' program. The only thing left, then, is to turn this personal discovery into your spontaneity - of body and mind; and the instant ending of relationship problem turns into the lasting ending of relationship problem for life! |
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